Velvet Vamp

Ever met Two-Faced Bitches?

2008-04-16T01:36:00.000-07:00

two-faced (tfst)
adj.
1. Having two faces or surfaces.
2. Hypocritical or double-dealing; deceitful.

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two-faced·ly (-fsd-l, -fstl) adv.
two-faced·ness n.

Adj. 1. two-faced - marked by deliberate deceptiveness especially by pretending one set of feelings and acting under the influence of another; "she was a deceitful scheming little thing"- Israel Zangwill; "a double-dealing double agent"; "a double-faced infernal traitor and schemer"- W.M.Thackeray
double-dealing, double-tongued, duplicitous, Janus-faced, double-faced, ambidextrous, deceitful
dishonest, dishonorable - deceptive or fraudulent; disposed to cheat or defraud or deceive

2. two-faced - having two faces--one looking to the future and one to the past; "Janus the two-faced god"
Janus-faced
faced - having a face or facing especially of a specified kind or number; often used in combination; "a neatly faced terrace"

http://www.thefreedictionary.com/two-faced

We all have our fair share of interacting with those kind of individuals. Some we triumph, some we lost. If you have your own experience, it's better that you share others and warn them. But remember to BE OBJECTIVE. We all have a tendency to be bias towards ourselves.

Walking Fashion Disaster

2008-04-09T08:10:00.000-07:00

Walking Fashion Disaster

Girls, let's face the fact that we are expected to look good. Don't give me the crap about 'I don't care about what others think' stuff, because deep down, you know that you. Don't go into self-denial.

I am not a fashion guru myself, but I've had some few fashion emergencies of my own.

Before I leave the house, I normally would change an average of 5 shirts and 3 jeans/skirt/pedal after a shower. I keep on changing until I feel satisfied about how I look in the mirror. If I leave the house with the feeling that 'I don't look good in what I'm wearing', I assure you, that in the middle of the day, I have purchased a shirt that I feel is suitable for me and my mood, and wear it.

I've seen many girls, with bountiful curves, wearing tight shirts and pants. IT IS NOT A PLEASANT SIGHT! I tell you! Who would want to see your flabs peaking from your shirt, or your dark butt-crack from your lacerated panty?! It looks disgusting!

I am not discriminating girls, regardless of your size and height. But please, dress appropriately. Dress yourself in a respectable way, not like a slut. You don't want to be the attention-getter in the street with the kind of look you're sporting. If you do, don't read this.

Before you get out of your house, look at yourself in front of a body mirror and objectively assess your look, WITHOUT ANY BIASES! Yes, you may love that piece of clothing to death. But that looks horrendous on you honey, so don't take any chances. Get a grip!

To avoid being a walking fashion disaster, here are some tips from http://www.ehow.com/how_2118238_avoid-becoming-fashion-disaster-women.html

How to Avoid Becoming a Female Fashion Disaster
By renee82

If you look good, you feel good. Unfortunately there are plenty of fashion-challenged people that mix a bright yellow fuzzy sweater with dark brown corduroy pants. Style is possible by following a few governing rules to your clothing selection.

Instructions:

Step 1:
Make sure the clothing complements your body. We all seen people wearing a shirt two sizes small or skin tight jeans that outlines their body and you wonder if they can walk or breathe through the pants. First find out what your body type is so you can wear clothes that flatters your figure wonderfully. Preferably somewhat loose clothing is good as it doesn't feel too small yet to big.

Step 2:
Stay update on the trends. This doesn't mean you are becoming a fashionista, just keeping up with the fashion that is out right now. Read articles and look at pictures in the magazines to find out what is hot at the moment.

Step 3:
Wear colors that matches well with your skin tone. It will definitely bring out the beauty in you even more and even compliments from others.

Tips & Warnings

Keep things simple.

Don't go over the top with your clothing.

Don't follow the high fashion magazines like Vogue.

Hong Kong Tourist Spots

2008-04-09T08:07:00.000-07:00

I was forced to go through this tour. Coz the board exam is so near that going to this trip made me feel so guilty.

I have been able to read as much as 4 Civil Code articles only!

And as a tour guide in this trip, I was forced to make agendas. And as I've noticed, there isn't much information on how to go through HK with much detail.

Our trip to Hong Kong. If you're going to travel through HK, the best means of transportation is through the MTR. The Octopus card costs HK$150, HK$50 for the deposit which is refundable when you depart HK. The minimum refill amount is HK$50. The Octopus card serves as an all-purpose transportation card which you can use in buses and trains.

Our first stop is the Giant Buddha in Lantau Island.

Now, how to get there. There are two ways in reaching it. First is through riding a bus. You ride the train to Tung Chung line, and go through B exit. From there, look for the bus station. Ride bus # 23. That bus goes to the Po Lin Monastery.

Second is through the cable car. On holidays, the rate is HK$155 for adults, for kids, I'm not so sure anymore. It's definitely lower if it isn't a holiday. That rate is for the round trip. The last cable going back to Tung Chung departs at 6:30pm.

Next is the famous Ocean Park. Go to Admiralty station in the Chai Wan line. There are arrows or guides in the station pointing to the Ocean Park buses. You can buy your tickets there too. The booth opens at 9am. Adult tickets cost HK$208. The bus directly takes you to Ocean Park entrance.

For Mong Kok night market, from Mong Kok, use exit A or B.

Stanley Market is one of the places where you can get cheaper products like bags and shoes. Go to the Exchange Square in Central Station. From the bus station, ride either bus # 6 or 6X. There is a difference in the routes. If you ride 6X, you can pass by Ocean Park. Stanley Market is situated in Aberdeen. Octopus card can be used. The bus ride costs about HK$7.45-8.55.

Peak Tram. Ride bus # 15 in the Exchange Square or walk 10-15 minutes from Central to go there. If you walk, you can pass by the Hong Kong Park. From Admiralty Station, use exit F to go to Hong Kong Park, then walk. The Peak Tram ride to HK tower costs HK$33 and HK$22 going back. If you want to enter the tower, it will cost an additional HK$115 if I'm correct. It could be HK$150. You can see the rest of HK from there. You can use Octopus card here.

Temple Street in Jordan. Get off in Jordan station and take exit A. 3 blocks away from the exit, you can see a closed street labeled Temple Street. It is similar to Mong Kok's night market.

Western Market. Get off in Sheung Wan Station, take exit C.

For museums such as the Space Museum, get off Tsim Sha Tsui Station. DO NOT GET OFF IN EAST TSIM CHA TSUI. Use exit E and walk south.

Wong Tai Sin Temple. Get off Wong Tai Sin in the Kwun Tung Line, and use exit B2.

Wan Chai Shopping District. Get off the Wan Chai Station in the Island/Chai Wan Line and use exit B1 or A4. Or any other exits. The whole place is a shopping district. The Wan Chai Convention Center is not near the MTR station, so if you're in for the long walk, see the convention center, it's nice.

DisneyLand. Get off Sunny Bay from the Tung Chung Line. There is an interchanging station there to Disney Land. The train is awfully Disney. Hahaha... I forgot how much the entrance to DisneyLand costs. But it is definitely more than HK$200.

To go to Macau, use Turbo Jet in Sheun Wan Station. Ticket costs about HK$100++. The ride is about 1hour. For those with motion sickness, i suggest you take a medicin before stepping into the ferry. =P

Hope that helped you adventurous fellas out there. There isn't this much detail when I searched the net. ^-^

The 48 Laws of PowerThe 48 Laws of Power

2008-02-28T05:52:00.001-08:00

The 48 Laws of PowerThe 48 Laws of Power
by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers

Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please
or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might
accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear
more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

Law 2
Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily
aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former
enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In
fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no
enemies, find a way to make them.

Law 3
Conceal your Intentions
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind
your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a
defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough
smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.

Law 4
Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more
common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something
banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike.
Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the
more likely you are to say something foolish.

Law 5
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life
Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can
intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be
attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to
potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to
destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand
aside and let public opinion hang them.

Law 6
Court Attention at all Cost
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing.
Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand
out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by
appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid
masses.

Law 7
Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit
Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own
cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will
give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will
be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do
for you.

Law 8
Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is
always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the
process. Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.

Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic
victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer
than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to
agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not
explicate.

Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as
disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only
precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on
themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and
fortunate instead.

Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more
you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for
their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear. Never teach them
enough so that they can do without you.

Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones.
Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the
most suspicious people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their
armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan
horse – will serve the same purpose.

Law 13
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your
past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead,
uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will
benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond
enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.

Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information
that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In
polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people
to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an
opportunity for artful spying.

Law 15
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed
completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is
left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out.
More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The
enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in
spirit.

Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard
from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group,
temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired.
You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in
other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control.
Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no
consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves
out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can
intimidate and terrorize.

Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect
themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more
dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information,
it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people
find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume
that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or
outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking
revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents
carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.

Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or
cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of
others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons. The trick, is to make your
victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are. Once
convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead.
Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your
conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction
of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other check you
infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.

Law 23
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their
strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper,
than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity
every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key
patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.

Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power
and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters,
yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and
graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no
limit to how far you can rise in the court.

Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by
forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the
audience. Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if
for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions –
your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.

Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled
by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using
others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.

Law 27
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal
point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your
words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear
thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make
sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand
causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.

Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and
hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter
with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected
with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the
possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your
hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be
overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide
fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.

Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and
practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed.
When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the
temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions. Teach no
one your tricks or they will be used against you.

Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice:
Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give
people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force
them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your
purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they
turn.

Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to
truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for
disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can
manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert:
Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of
the masses.

Law 33
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usual y an
insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret
pleasure. Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your
advantage.

Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion: Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long
run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king
respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally
and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself,
and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to
you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of
the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when
the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.

Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have: Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility. The
more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake
is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes
best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have,
show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone
responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting
visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by
appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.

Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional
ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and
that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making
them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch.
Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to
appreciate your uniqueness.

Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay
calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm
yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the
chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the
strings.

Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a
hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way
you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay
the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with
your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for
power.

Law 41
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes
after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to
accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their
shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and
identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy,
and gain power by shining in your own way.

Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the
arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill. If you allow such people room to
operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles
they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are
irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them.
Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.

Law 43
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must
seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced
becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their
individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on
their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the
hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.

Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When
you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your
strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact.
By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that
you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them
a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.

Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day
level people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will
lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to
build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If
change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.

Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is
to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is
smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to
deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can
seem perfect with impunity.

Law 47
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of
victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed
for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow
success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful
planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.

Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack.
Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on
the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The
best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet
on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.

First Step Into the Real World

2007-12-21T06:42:00.000-08:00

Getting over college was like a dream of yesterday. It was miles beyond my reach. Now, it is behind me. Graduating should be really fulfilling, specially when you took a lot of pain to get through it.

A business course should be easy and practical, right? But life is just so unfair. It was never that easy. After my first year of college in DLSU, under the accountancy program, the modular program (supposed new and improved accountancy program; more like 'give-the-students-hell' program) struck us by surprise. Before we knew it, we were signing to something assuring that we are the second batch of Guinea pigs put into the program. There, there. Off to the program. And down to the list of sacrifices our batch made:
1)Sleepless nights (I tell you, countless sleepless nights!);
2)Unnerving tension (all those 'every-other-day' quizzes and exams; the every-after-2-weeks finals; not to mention the ONE-WHOLE-WEEK finals on your last term);
3)Some incompetent professors (definitely not all of them; there're a bunch who really are worth the tuition fee);
4)Broken relationships (not pointing a finger at lover kind of relationships, but more of friendship due to stress and the competition); and
5)More heartache and crushed dreams (oh, I tell you, we've had 70% fatality; meaning only 30% of our batch graduate).

After passing all of those hurdles, and getting a huge circle of eyebag under my eyes, (I'm still concerned about how I look), I still feel something's missing. Oh yeah, haven't done any major violation in school. I hate to say this, but my discipline record is too clean! That's it... I missed conjuring a major violation during my college life! Darn! Lolz! o^_^o

Nine Traits of a Leader by Mr. Gil Acuna

2007-09-09T00:28:00.000-07:00

Never out-shine the master
Always say less than necessary
So much depends on reputation--guard it with your life
Win through actions never through argument
Concentrate on your forces
Master the art of timing (be at the right place at the right time) *there are trains that do come to your life, train like people whom you admire, and they will help you; but sometimes, a train will never come to a person's life*
Be assertive
Be rational
Keep your hands clean, to be clean so that people don't have anything against you

8 Things About Me

2007-09-08T10:10:00.000-07:00

Career over any other thing. Call me heartless, but that’s me. I don’t want to be some loser who didn’t get what he wanted in his life and didn’t even do a thing bout it.
Beauty and Brains. I will not have only one, I will have both. And I cannot accept it if my beauty is from any plastic surgery. I will not have myself go under the knife. That would really make me feel ugly.
I can work without any bias, even if I so want to kill the person I am working with. That’s why business is business, duh! Some people just don’t get that. And mind you, there are many of them in the business world.
I dream of having a split personality. One’s a successful businesswoman/a court spitfire, and the other, a hard core party chick!!!
I’ve always wanted to play the violin. But owning one is too much of a pain in the pocket.
I’m a rocker! A lot of people say they don’t expect me to be listening to Nickelback, Fall Out Boys, and Panic.
If I don’t like what I’m wearing, I will instantly go to the nearest shop, and buy a new dress/top and change. I can't take it when I feel like I'm wearing home clothes.
It’s very hard for me to get seriously angry. Do me wrong once, I’ll remember it for the rest of my life. And don’t you dare cross me, I swear, you will regret it. And you’ll never know that it was me behind it.

Meet the Parents~Soceraphobia

2007-09-02T01:44:00.000-07:00

I am afraid of the wedded life. I simply could not picture myself wearing a wedding dress or walking down the aisle of the church. Let me explain my case.

The wedded life is not the concentration of my fear. Well, as a girl, as a female specimen, I should as well know that giving birth is one hell of a pain in the ass. Well, not exactly the ass. Anyway, I am not as much afraid of that. And the honeymoon night, oh hell, I am definitely not afraid of that. I am very much anticipating that. But not the actual thing. This looks like this is going nowhere. Just bear with me. I am not afraid of sharing my room, or changing in front of a guy whom I’ve know not even more than half of my age by that time, and spend the rest of my damned life with him. I am not afraid that my significant other has a more than 9 months of pregnancy for at least a decade. What I am afraid of is meeting the parents-in-law.

I have this fear of meeting the parents-in-law, or socerophobia. This has been an unknown fear residing within me. If I have that fear, surely, there is a connecting stimulus. This has been triggered by unprecedented events in my youth. Well, not me of course. I haven’t reached the legal marrying age at that time. And with hell strict parents that I have, I wouldn’t have a love life until after college. This event, which has involved men chasing one another with ‘bolos’ or this huge knives, caused an unnoticeable imprint at the back of my mind.

Putting that stimulus aside, another cause of this recent fear is the question: “What if my in-laws hate me, just like the monster-in-law movie?” Oh, surely it will be a hell of a married life. But that is too shallow for a reason. There will be the cultural, religious and expectations. Surely, that will be a hindrance.

There is one instance where I had this so called ‘date’ with a guy. And in less than an hour, he had already introduced me to almost all of his siblings. If I hadn’t said I need to be home, I could have met his mom. And by the gods, it was a very dreadful experience. It’s not like I want to or is expecting to meet his mom. It’s just that I felt caged and bound at that time. My heart was racing after he said, “I will introduce you to my mom, but she isn’t here yet.” Oh, hell, that was enough for me to go away. One, because it was too fast. Two, because I simply am not comfortable meeting parents yet. If we were just friends, that would be just fine. But heck, I just knew him for a month, and there goes meeting the parents!

I can’t imagine how my life would be with my in-laws. Oh dear.